By Jennifer Lyall JLon Monday, April 29 th, 2013 no Comments
Staying Neutral in Other’s Relationships: 3 Tips on How to Hold Your Tongue
Have you ever had a relationship between two friends, co-workers or family members go awry? Have you ever been tempted to get involved? Think before you act and consider the possibility of staying neutral in other people’s relationships and hold your tongue.
Stay Neutral- Don’t take sides
I have two friends who took on a project, that was executed in a manner that was different from each person’s expectations and as a result, each person has a different point of view on what the outcome should be of the project and what the next steps are.
Now, their situation impacts 30+ other people, including me. Today a friend of mine called me to talk through her perception of the situation and what she needs to do as a result of it. I shared with her my perspective and how I’ve decided to respond to the questions these people have posed, for her consideration.
For me, I have chosen to not get involved with their personal discussions. Whatever needs to be said and resolved is for them to sort out. I don’t see the need or benefit of me “taking sides.”
Be Aware of What You Put Out there- Don’t Gossip
I still believe in the original intention of the project. So, I’ve decided to listen to my inner guidance, and continue to be a stand for that intention. Sitting in this place, I am able to receive and understand the guidance on my next steps in responding to their requests. I am able to do so with clarity and from a heart-centred place that serves me and supports each of them in coming to a respectful resolution that honours the original intention of the project.
There is no worry. There is no gossip. There is no questioning back and forth about what to do or where my loyalties lie.
Let Their Drama be Their Drama – Keep your vibe high
As I reflect on other times when I’ve been exposed to disagreements, I can see how the situation resolved itself more quickly the times I remained neutral. When I get caught up in drama, then I contribute to the strife and lower my vibration in the process.
Talking through this helped me to gain clarity on how I have grown in the past few years to be able to look at situations in this manner. It also helped my friend work through her perception of the situation.
How do you handle disagreements with people that you care about?